What is so happy about the holidays??? I have had my share of unhappy holidays. If the whole country wasn't so worked up about them it would just be another day.
I think it all began as a solstice celebration, the time when winter actually begins. A time of rest for nature and it used to be a time of rest for human beings too.
But now we celebrate all kinds of religious holidays this time of year. And for the most part it can be hectic and stressful.
I am heading to Tucson in a few days to visit my son, my daughter in law and my grand daughter. Tucson is dry and warm and I am used to cold and snow. But none of these thing have anything to do with having a happy holiday season.
What on earth makes the holidays happy???
The answer is our thoughts and what we make them mean.
Happiness doesn't come from the circumstances we find ourselves in. Happiness comes from the inside out.
So the real question is how do we create happiness in our minds first? The Buddha would tell us that our expectations create all of our unhappiness. And after all the years I have lived on this planet I tend to agree.
So now the question is how do we let go of our expectations? The answer I have found is to be in this moment now and see what there is to be happy about. Use your mind to search for something in this moment that you can be grateful for.
If you are not enjoying your holiday see what you can do to change it for the better. If you don't enjoy what others are doing for the holiday start your own tradition.
As my coach Terri Levine says over and over again
“Time is the one thing you can't get back.”
Use your time wisely. Enjoy the moment. Search for what is good in this world and in this moment.
Have a Very Happy Holiday Season.
Wishing you Peace & Health & Happiness
This is the time of year that most of us begin to get really stressed out. The holidays are upon us and there are so many more things to take care of and get ready for. Family gatherings, decorating, gifts and party preparations. In this time of stress I want to help you have a really great holiday season. I am gifting you a wonderful audio called Cosmic Stress Relief". It is in mp3 format so you can listen on line or down load it to your computer or mp3 player. Click Here
Have an awesome holiday season filled with peace, love and joy and just let all that stress melt away. Enjoy
Miracles happen large and small all the time. We just don’t talk about it.
The TV news doesn't seem to like reporting miracles. Maybe, we just aren’t focused on miracles. But, I think they happen all the time. Let me tell you about one that happened to me a few years ago. One summer evening, I decided to barbecue. I lit the charcoals and once they were all burning I put the lid on the grill. A few minutes later (not thinking) I decided to open the metal vent on the top of the grill. Too late, I realized that it was a stupid move. My fingers were burning like crazy. I went inside and got some ice which I held with my burned fingers until the ice melted. Then, the burning would come back full force like I had just burned myself a minute ago. I got more ice and when that melted, the pain was exactly the same. At that moment, I decided to give my pain my undivided attention. I imagined I was sitting inside my fingers where it hurt the most. With all my attention focused there ,I had no opinion about what I was aware of, only that I was there for the duration with all my focus and attention. I had heard some where that pain is the body’s way of getting your attention and I was going to PAY attention and see what happened. As I sat there with my eyes closed focused in on that pain, I noticed stinging pain, red hot colors, a windy sound and even a bit of moaning. As I sat there, I noticed that the color went from flaming red to orange, to yellow and eventually blue. The pain went from stinging to heat to warm to cool. The sound went to calm quiet and all this happened in less than 10 minutes. I have been able to share this experience with other people in immediate pain and it has had similar effects. Another amazing thing about this is that I never got so much as a blister or red mark from the burn. I share this with you because I believe it is possible for anyone to have the same experience that I had with pain. We are all capable of miracles. Try it the next time you bang your toe or on a chronic pain you are experiencing. Miracles are happening all around us. We just don’t talk about it. If you have a miracle you would like to share with me, please do. I would love to hear about it.
I heard a TV reporter discribe the recent storm as the "storm of a life time." Everyone and their cousin were at the grocery store stocking up on groceries or what ever it was they were told to get incase of an emergency. First I have to admit that I don't watch much news. I find out what I need to know through the internet. That being said I am not one to jump into any kind of a panic mode. I did go to the store and pick up some ice cream for the occasion and while I was at the store I was noticing that the run on the groceries, hardware and such is a real boon to the store owners. If I had stock in home depot I think it would have gone up over the last few days. I really do enjoy a good storm. And the earth quake last week was very interesting too. With all these natural events happening I'm aware that life can be completely out of my control. The only thing I am in control of is how I decide to be with it. My friends and I had a little party Saturday night. We told stories while enjoying good food and good company. We laughed and had a good time and put our shoes clean underwear next to our bed in case a tree fell on our house during the night. I found out that we weren't the only ones. So I am curious how did you decide to be with the "storm of a life time"?
How can you realize your goals in record time? I’ve been looking for the answer to this question for a long time. And I finally have the answer you’ve been looking for. You see I have a friend who is great at saying “it’s all about the progress”. And she is right. We all plug along making progress on our goals. There is just one problem with that point of view.
Now I don’t know about you but if the progress is too slow I lose steam and enthusiasm about my goal. This was an on going pattern for me until I spent some time with a master mind business coach. This is what he said...
decide what you want, create a detailed action plan and then “Take massive action as if your life depended on it.”
Wow. I don’t think I've ever taken action on a goal as if my life depended on it, ever. But why not? Once I heard this I could see what it was that I was missing. I took this coaching and started making massive progress on my goals and I was so excited by the results that it energized me to keep on going to the end results.
Most of the time when we set goals we are actually only interested in having them happen. Sometimes we think to ourselves it would be nice. Sometimes we want it really badly but aren’t sure if we can do it. Rarely are we so committed to our goal that we do what ever it takes to make it happen. The cool thing is, now that you know the HOW of it you can take the massive action it takes to make your goals a reality in record time.
Your mission should you decide to accept it, is to set a goal, create a detailed action plan and then take massive action as if your life depended on it. Then send me an email and let me know your results. Sincerely Sharon L. Muir
How is it that some people have it and some people are left wondering... how can I get that? Confidence can be an illusive thing sometimes. Especially when you’re relatively new at something. Now Imagine yourself in situation where you really need some confidence and someone is looking to you for answers, solutions, advise or motivation.
This week I am headed to the National Guild of Hypnotist's Convention. This year I’ll be leading a training on How to be come confident. My coaching clients often tell me that they lack a sense of confidence and they want to know how they can raise their level of confidence. The answer I give them is that confidence comes from with in. We have all had the experience of feeling confident. And because of that experience you can find confidence deep inside you and apply it at any given moment. You may be saying to yourself, Really? And the answer to that is Yes, Really!
Confidence has a profound effect on how your clients see you and whether they will follow your advice or signing up for your service or rave about you to there friends and family. When your confidence shines through in your communication, your clients will have confidence in you.
You can find it in a memory of a time when you felt really confident. Remember when you learned how to drive. If you were like me you were afraid to let go of the steering wheel. Now years later, you get in the car and drive down the road sipping on coffee, tuning in the radio and much more. The secret is that the confident memory doesn’t have to relate to your current situation. All you have to do is access that feeling of confidence and wear it like a really great set of cloths, that always makes you feel great.
When I was learning how to drive, my father saw how fearful and insecure I was. I felt like every on coming car was in competition with me for the road. My dad told me to take one hand off the wheel and rest my elbow on the window ledge. This position instantly connected me to a feeling of confidence. I have no idea what made him tell me to do that and my driver ed teacher would have had a fit, but it worked. And I was able to let go of the fear and learn how to drive the car.
Of course, I have a little technique to get you there and help you to embody that feeling of confidence step by step. The key to having this technique work well is to let go and use your imagination. Your mission is to practice this technique and lete me know your results. Here it is...
1. Close your eyes and imagine a time when you felt really confident.
2. Visualize every thing that is going on around you and make the colors bright.
3. Hear any sounds that were happening at that time.
4. And pay close attention to how you are feeling. The emotions and sensations really count.
5. Imagine this experience of confidence as is it were happening right this moment.
6. Slowly open your eyes and bring this feeling of confidence into this moment in time.
7. Give yourself a personal reminder cue or trigger like a word or signal that will let you bring up this memory when ever you want it.
8. Condition this for yourself by repeating this process at least 10 times.
9. Then when you really need some confidence you can trigger it on cue when ever you want.
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When I was young I believed that worrying about someone was a way of showing how much you cared. Over the years I got so good at worrying that I would wake up in the morning worried and anxious about something or someone.
After many years of this exhausting practice of worrying, I realized that worrying does nothing. Not one positive thing. So one day I gave up worry, cold turkey. Now I’ll bet you are wondering “How did she do that?” I would have asked the same thing. How can you just stop worrying?
Here’s how. In the morning I lay in bed and notice what I’m worried or anxious about. Most of the time it doesn’t even have anything to do with me or my life. I can clearly see that there is nothing I can or should do about what ever it is I am worrying about. Then I imagine that the worry thoughts float up into the atmosphere and vaporize.
After that I set my intention to be grateful all day long and focus on the things I am happy about. Like that fact that I have a comfortable bed, a roof over my head, gas in my car and food in the fridge. Then I get up and go about my day. If a worry thought comes into my head I send it up and out and again focus on something I am grateful for.
Worry doesn’t have any real value. Make a decision to let it go and you’ll be amazed how things begin turning out better and better.
If you knew you could change it quickly and easily would you be ready for that kind of change?
Every week I lead a group of people who practice Neuro-Linguistic Programming techniques. Last week we were using Jamie Smart’s Salad Cards. It’s a card game of crazy eights that helps you practice language patterns. It is a scream. We were having so much fun laughing. It was hard to tell we were learning at the same time. I highly recommend using these cards to get really good at using these NLP patterns. The deck of cards focused on helping people clear limiting beliefs that keep them stuck. So we each had come up with a limiting belief to use during the game. My limiting belief was that, I feel that taking time off is a waste of time. I was so sick of that limiting belief by the end of the night that I told everyone that I planned to clear that belief this week. Right after I said that two people in the group said “let me know if it works.” At that moment I realized that I have been using many NLP techniques to clear my limiting for quite a while now. It’s never a question of if it well work but whether or not I am ready to let that limiting belief go. There are many really good NLP techniques for letting go of your limiting beliefs but I will give you a simple one to practice here.
It’s called the Dickens Technique.
1. Identify you limiting belief
2. Get a clear sense and statement of your limiting belief.
3. Imagine going out into the future stubbornly holding on to it.
Notice how your life is unfolding 6 months, 1 year, 3 years, 5 years out into the future.
4. When you are clear about the negative experience this old belief has on your life, clear that false future. Let it vanish into thin air.
5. Now create a real future that is completely free of that old limiting belief. Notice how you are as you imagine yourself 6 months, 1 year, 3 years, 5 years into the future. Notice what you are doing, saying, and experiencing now.
6. In this new future become aware of what you believe now.
7. Bring that new empowering belief back and anchor it in using voice, physical movements and images. Notice your emotions now that you have this new belief.
This always gives me a sense of freedom. And I always feel good. Try this on for yourself and let me know your results.
Have you ever looked carefully at someone you thought was amazing?
Now this friend of mine seemed wise to me at the time. He was a tall blond white guy with lots of authentic Native American tools. He had ornately decorated walking/talking sticks, drums, crystals, pipes, tobacco and sage. He had studied with other wise people and he knew some Cherokee language and ritual. He also led vision quests and sweat lodges. I believed he was someone who knew the ropes, someone who could show me truth and wisdom. One day he told me “If you are looking for wisdom, search out gray hair and lots of wrinkles. Those are the people who have lived and learned. Sounds wise doesn’t it?
So off I went in search of a wise woman. Gray hair and lots of wrinkles. In no time I found her. Right there in line at the grocery store. She was kind and friendly and I suggested we meet later that week for coffee. The experience was truly enlightening. She was not only kind ,friendly, gray haired and wrinkled. She had lots of time and wanted to tell me all about her life, show me her lavish home and even take me to the opera.
The wisdom I learned from all of this was that Gray hair and wrinkles have nothing to do with wisdom. And just because someone is good at playing Native American doesn’t make him authentic or wise.
That was the day I took off my rose colored glasses and started looking deeper than trappings and words.
Last week I was flying home from Tucson and I had to change planes in Milwaukee. It was a late flight and we took off around 7:30pm. As the plane took off, I saw the second most beautiful sunset I had ever seen in my life. The colors were spectacular.
The most beautiful sunset I ever saw was also taking off in a plane to Hawaii in 1996, but that is another story.
The flight from Milwaukee wasn’t very long and as we got closer to Philadelphia the sky became cloudy. Because we were flying above the clouds, the Full moon was beautiful. I felt so fortunate to have such an evening of visual beauty.
I had just been visiting my son, his wife and my granddaughter to celebrate her first birthday. She is in awe of so much that she is experiencing and I could feel myself in the same mindset on this plane ride.
As we came in for a landing we naturally had to go through the cloud cover and I was aware of the level of trust the pilot has to have in order to do that. Trust that the controllers are watching all the air traffic and communicating clearly with him that all is well. Trust in his training and ability to fly the air craft and land safely.
Sometimes in my own life I have a similar experience of having to keep right on moving forward and trust. Trust that my closest friends will tell to me that I am on the right course and all is well. Trusting all my skills and experience in training others will get the results I have intended.
Trust can make all the difference when it comes to moving forward, creating success in your life and getting from where you are to where you want to be.
The possibility of experiencing the kind of beauty I saw from that airplane was founded in many levels of trust.
Take a moment and think about all the things you already trust to be there for you and the times you choose not to trust yourself and others.